For 35 years I’ve taught and counseled with parents. It is often hard for a parent to understand the maze and rabbit holes connected with good parenting. I designed the Mommy detective to engage, encourage and help parents connect with their children to solve problems.
Being a Mommy or Daddy detective isn’t about invading your child’s space or being a helicopter parent. Your detective role is to look at every problem you see and ask questions until you are positive you know the cause of your family’s drama. Your child is certainly not a criminal, but we can use some of the techniques criminal detectives use in order to find answers for our family.
I create a lot of mind maps. When a doctor complained that his children pitched temper tantrums for everything – I took the time to do a mind map. I came up with over 200 possible logical reasons for a temper tantrum – none of them referred to the child as “just a bad kid.”
Children don’t cry without a reason. Children don’t act out without a reason. Children don’t reject their parents without a reason! If you want a calm, loving, home – become a mommy or daddy detective. Ask yourself why your child is acting out. When you only grab, yell or spank, you solve nothing! Be a team player and join your child’s team.
Being a detective does not eliminate “discipline” from your home. In fact, it will require more discipline from your child. I promise that your child will not fight “logical” discipline and your child will become a better person.
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